An Honest Look at Lying

Liar liar, pants on fire!  Everyone knows the saying right? We hear children on the playground shouting this at each other or maybe your kids have said this to you after telling them a nursery rhyme or a “fib.”  Let’s be honest, we have all lied at some point but why do we do it?  For my last post of 2011 I’d like to take an honest look at lying. 

Speaking from personal experience I would say the main reason people lie is either to make themselves look more impressive to someone or to cover up something they’ve done that they are ashamed of.  Either way we are giving a false representation of who we actually are.  So why do we constantly feel the need to make ourselves appear better than we are?   

“Be yourself” and “be real” are very popular words of advice these days.  There’s so much talk of “fake” people.   Everywhere I go someone is gossiping about someone else saying “they’re so fake.”  So who are the “real” people? Don’t we all put on some fake representation of ourselves when we go out into public?  Aren’t we all somewhat fake? People can get so obsessed with what others think about them.  After typing that statement I quickly felt the urge to let you all know that I’m no different and with that proving my own worries of what others think of me.  We all want to fit in and we all want to be accepted.  Does this lead us to lie?  Shouldn’t it be the opposite?  It’s quite paradoxical—we lie to be accepted but nobody wants to accept a liar.  So by lying aren’t we just digging our own grave?  We tell one lie and that leads to another, which leads to another, and another, until there’s no truth left in anything were saying.  It’s a terrible trap that we could easily avoid if we just don’t lie to begin with. 

As Christians we know we should not lie and it tells us this many places in the Bible. 

Thou shalt not bear false witness!” (Exodus 20:16)

“Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who deal truthfully are His delight.” (Prov 12:22)

We also know that if we do lie we should quickly confess.

“He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.” (Prov 28:13)

“Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for another, that you may be healed.” (James 5:15)

After Jesus had been taken prisoner Peter lied three times to people denying he ever knew Jesus.  Why did he do it?  Can’t we all relate to Peter sometimes?  I’m going to be honest here and admit that I have lied before to get out of having to talk about my faith.  I did just last week actually.  It happened so quickly I did it without even really thinking about it.  For work I deal with a lot of musicians and most of them guys.  I have a recording studio at my home and in the past—my pre-Jesus days—I’ve kept a few “girlie magazines” around.  After committing my life to Christ I threw these magazines away.  I had a past client in last week that asked me where the magazines were.  Immediately with almost no prior thought I lied and said I had given them away.  This was not true at all.  The truth is I threw them away because I take the problem of sexual immorality and pornography very seriously.  I will not have those magazines in my house anymore because I am a Christian and try my best to follow the moral law that God has given us.  That is what I should have told him but instead I made up a lie to avoid talking about Jesus.  It seemed like such a small little innocent lie but the Holy Spirit did not think so.  Immediately conviction set in and guilt arose.  The incident has crossed my mind quite a few times since and hence I decided to write this post.   

I’ve come to realize that it’s just not worth it to lie about anything… ever.  The Lord has set me free by forgiving me of my past sins so why do I want to put myself back into the pit by lying again?  One of the most amazing gifts we get with the decision to follow Jesus is peace from the past.  I have finally moved on and put my past self away.  I’m living in light now but how quickly my flesh wants to throw me back into darkness.   I refuse to live there and I encourage you to do so as well!  Jesus said “I am the way, the truth, and the life” and he also said “the truth will set you free.”  He was so right.  He was right about everything he said.  Instead of “liar liar, pants on fire” the saying should be “the truth, the truth, sets my heart on fire” for Jesus that is. With 2012 approaching it’s the perfect time to start over.  It’s time for New Year’s resolutions and I have figured mine out: to live in the truth that is Jesus Christ!  I hope you’ll join me!  Happy New Year everyone and God bless 2012!

“I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ–the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith. I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.

 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”(Philippians 3:8-14 NIV84)

-I Want To Believe In God [dot com]

14 thoughts on “An Honest Look at Lying

  1. the warrioress

    Steven, this was really great. Important blog. It’s difficult to be consistently honest when we’re used to socially acceptable “white lies.” These are those lies that we tell in order to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, etc.

    It’s really not worth it not to be completely honest 24/7. I will join you in this pursuit to be absolutely honest about even the little things. We can be honest and still be kind as Christians. God bless you and have a wonderful new year.

    In Christ,


  2. Sebastian

    Excellent post! I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you for your transparency. We as Christians need to be reminded of simple truths as this. Thank you again.

  3. Holly

    Thank you so much for this post and for the follow on tweeter which lead me here. I’m slowly learning that most people just want to hear the lie to pump up their ego so I’m learning to just keep my mouth shut. Sometimes by not saying anything the truth will be seen. Thanks again this is a great post.

    1. iwanttobelieveingod Post author

      Hi Holly,
      Thanks for commenting and yes I totally agree—keeping quiet can often be wisest choice!

      “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” Prov 12:18-19

  4. BFaye

    Hi Steven:
    I love how God works. TODAY, I had a conversation with a very good friend about lying. We have opposing views on the matter. Like you, I agree there’s never (ever) a reason to be deceptive.

    Remember, the Garden of Eden and the deception that took place and the consequences to that big fat LIE! (Genesis 3:4-24) Eve pointed to the serpent as the cause of her deception and then they both (indirectly) insinuated that God was responsible for their sin. Sin forever changed the relationship between God and man and although sin itself goes back to a rebellion in heaven (Is 14:12-14; Ezek 28; 15-17) that scene in the Garden had a significant impact on mankind (God pronounced divine judgment toward the serpent and man).

    God hates lying! Rev. 21:8 says liars are not going to have any part in heaven. That may sound harsh but sin cannot abide with God. He will have no part of it…

    The good news…Shall we fall into sin {and we confess it to God, he is faithful and just and will forgive us of our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9)}. God says, “I knew each of you before I formed you in your mother’s womb”.. That same God provides a way of escape for us “today” as well (1 Cor 10:13).

    Thanks for this message and reminder!

    1. iwanttobelieveingod Post author

      Hi there and welcome to my blog!
      I see we’re on the same page. I don’t see any logical excuse to ever lie. Satan is a one trick pony and his only trick: lying. How could we ever excuse ourselves out of this sin? Lying so you don’t hurt someone’s feelings is a selfish excuse. Wouldn’t you rather someone be straight with you than lie to your face and give you a complete false impression of their opinion?

      Thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment!

      Btw: my name is actually Justin. There’s been in a little confusion as to my name in these comments..haha.

  5. Sexual Purity Blog

    Good post. I just shared it on my facebook. I want my friend to read it. I really like the honesty you exhibited in tackling this issue. Lying is a BIG problem for us all. We know we’re should not lie, but like Peter, it happens so sudden that we don’t seem to have much control over it.

    But thanks to our Lord and Saviour, Jesus, who is merciful and helps with our weaknesses. It is my prayer that, God will have me to fight seriously against lying in my life for the whole of 2012 and beyond.

    God bless you.


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