A relationship with Christ is not about doing the best you can to avoid the sinful things you want to do, it’s about being so overwhelmed by the love of Christ that your desires supernaturally change and sin is no longer desirable.
If you find yourself constantly desiring to sin then please take this advice:
First – Trust the Lord
Trust the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. –Proverbs 3:5.
Believe God’s word which says you are a new creation in Christ (2 Cor 5:17) and sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace (Romans 5:14).
Second – Stop condemning yourself
For where sin abounds grace abounds much more! (read Romans 5:20).
There is a reason God sent His only Son to the cross—a final sacrifice for your sin! Yes, you personally.
Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. (Romans 5:1)
So believe it brethren. God has already paid your debt and you are redeemed!
Third – Spend more time with Jesus
We are called to be conformed to the image of Jesus! (read Romans 8:29). Have you ever noticed that the more you hang out with someone the more their ways rub off on you. It works the same with the Lord.
Now the Lord is Spirit so to hang out with Jesus just sit quietly in His presence. Pray or put on worship music. Go sit outside in the middle of His creation at a field, beach, forest or even your backyard and meditate on God’s presence all around you.
Fourth – Ask God to change your heart
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting. –Psalm 139:23-24
This is probably the most important because this is humbly admitting our need for Jesus. It is admitting we need His help and cannot do this thing called life alone. It’s saying, “I can’t fix myself Lord. You must do this.” Often it can take time to honestly reach this point. We can be very carnal, prideful humans and naturally want to “do a good job” and “fix ourselves.” Ask God to expose your motives. Have you been trying to beat sin on your own to earn grace?
Fifth – Memorize scripture
Your word I have hidden in my heart,
That I might not sin against You. –Psalm 119:11
The best defense against the enemy is God’s word. The enemy knows God’s word and will try to twist it and lie to you saying that it is not true. The first question in the Bible is Satan questioning God’s word. “Has God said?” (read Gen 3:1). God never lies, He is always faithful and His word is always true. Knowing scripture will help you defend yourself against sin.
Sixth – Delight yourself in the Lord
Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart. –Psalm 37:4
If you follow the first five steps this one will happen naturally. You cannot force yourself to fall in love with God but by growing in a relationship with Him I would say that you cannot stop yourself from falling in love with God. As you delight yourself in the Lord He will change you and your desires will supernaturally change so that you start to want what He wants.
Disclaimer: We are all at different stages in our walk with Christ and I believe sanctification to be a life long process. Some find breakthrough in certain areas very fast and others it can take years. So regardless of what stage you are at, whether you have been fighting for a few days or for ten years, I want to encourage you to remain in faith and have confidence in Jesus who by His own shed blood has purchased your freedom! He will take you there.
Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling,
And to present you faultless
Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy,
To God our Savior,
Who alone is wise,
Be glory and majesty,
Dominion and power,
Both now and forever.
- Sin & Forgiveness (chasingafterjesus.wordpress.com)
- My Gift From God (thelordswitness.com)
- Rescued and Redeemed, walk in it: Colossians 1:13-14 (mytotallyother.wordpress.com)
- Justified by Faith (loopyloo305.com)